Feb 7, 2012

Keadilan dalam Persahabatan

I don't understand our relationship. Sometimes we're friends, sometimes we're more then friends & sometimes I'm just a stranger to you.

Dalam persahabatan, kita harus tahu kedudukan kita sebagai kawan yang bagaimana. Terutamanya apabila kebanyakan kawan-kawan rapat kita itu berlain gender - supaya dapat kita letakkan mereka di kedudukan sewajarnya, tanpa sebarang salah faham, apatah lagi ketidakadilan.

Acapkali, kita akan tahu dengan jelas kedudukan kawan-kawan dan juga kedudukan kita sebagai kawan mereka melalui cara mereka berurusan dan melayan kita.

Tetapi kadang-kala akan hadir seorang dua yang barangkali tanpa sedar menghantar isyarat mengelirukan. Sebagai seseorang yang tidak gemar tertanya-tanya apatah lagi membiarkan keraguan merajalela, maka wajarlah kita menjernihkan keadaan.

Kawan itu pun sepatutnya menjawab dengan jujur; apa pun jenis jawapan tentu sudah sedia diterima oleh kawan yang bertanya, atau kita tidak akan sebegitu berani membuka kata. Tentu sekali persahabatan itu sangat bermakna.

Wallahualam.

5 komentar:

kekasih pertama said...

Hi,

I just found your blog. Look interesting =)

But this last post attracts my attention somehow. Hence decided to drop few lines here ;)

Yup some guys do behave like that. I used to have some friends who did behave that way. Maybe they just realised that it's not good to be friends with woman.. I mean in islamic context?

Or else, maybe we should understand what are their intention to be friends with us in the first place. If the intentions are for intelectual discussion, and for us to demand something else is a bit overboard. So that y they choose to keep the distance, I guess so.

Or maybe... the guy could feel that we do have some deeper feelings towards him(not just friends like he used to think), hence he decided to leave before matter getting any worse.. could be because he has a heart to take care of.. in other words, he has a woman who he doesn't wanna hurt.. :)

Just imagine if u r in the woman shoes, how would you feel to know that some other woman is peeking at your man?

And try Imagine you r in the man shoes, he doesn't want to break the frienship, but he loves his relationship more.. as a good friend, dont give pressure lah. ;)

goodluck! :)

budak concern said...

I think ones not gonna feel disheartened in a friendship unless she demands something else from the friend, no?

Coz you see, we have about thousand friends in facebook. But not everybody else we contact everyday nor talk to. But we doesn't feel anything. But towards some people(some friends) we do feel something. why? Coz we want an extra attention from them, we want a better treatment from them.

But get real, are you guys in a relationship? no right? Get the fact right.. friendship is friendship. not relationship. And as a friend, one should give some space to her friend. :)

Rebecca Ilham said...

All,
“I am too intelligent, too demanding, and too resourceful for anyone to be able to take charge of me entirely. *No one* knows me or loves me completely. I have only myself ”
― Simone de Beauvoir

:)

Anonymous said...

Amboi, entri tentang hati dan perasaan.

:)

Rebecca Ilham said...

Kalau entri jiwang ramailah yang berminat nak komen. Haha.